A year ago, I wrote a post called “Three Ideas to Get You Moving if You’re Putting Something Off.”
We had more than 240 comments and more than 200 emails in response to that post–most likely because it is so common to procrastinate those “scary” things we feel we’re meant to do.
It’s now been a year since that post, and I want to encourage each of us to reflect on what we wanted a year ago, consider what we’ve accomplished in the past year, and figure out what we need to do now.
In the podcast (linked above!), I went back and read that post, so you can click over and do the same, if you’d like—or you can listen to the podcast. At the time, the thing I was putting off was writing/podcasting/emailing to the LearnDoBecome community. I decided to create something new once a week for 12 weeks and then report back.
Now think for a moment—what were YOU putting off a year ago? What was that thing you wanted so badly, but you were afraid to do?
Let’s reflect on what happened with that.
For me, it turns out I actually didn’t create something once a week. I honestly don’t know what I was thinking. We were in the middle of moving, there were a million things going on, and I felt so depleted.
Now, we HAVE published 32 posts or podcasts at LearnDoBecome in the past year—but not all by me! I’m learning that I don’t have to be the only person creating at LearnDoBecome. Our team is amazing, and they have been helping to make things happen.
And although I didn’t do things the way I intended, over the past year I have accomplished a lot. We all have. And I think it’s helpful to sit down and reflect on all those things. (If you haven’t seen Danielle Porter’s “Happy Success List,” you’ll want to check that out!)
So I made a little list of Happy Successes of my own from the past year. I encourage you to do the same. Here are mine, if you’d like some ideas:
- Family moved
- Said goodbye to my mom
- Learned to sleep
- Big STEP Live event
- Big promotion of Michael Hyatt’s Best Year Ever and our launch of Life Architecture Beta
- Launch of STEP for Students
- Big expansion at Power of Moms – plus lots of podcasts over there!
- Grew our team at LearnDoBecome
- Big investment in coaching – traveled to multiple conferences
- New volunteer positions for Eric and I at church, working with the teenagers
- A lot of mindset work
- Plus the everyday work of taking care of myself, my family, the business, and doing my best to connect with God on a regular basis.
If you can pause and take time to record your own list, I think it will help you to feel better!
Okay, so once we have that list and we give ourselves a little pat on the back for all we DID do, I think it’s helpful to reassess that initial goal we had and ask ourselves, “What do we need to do now?”
If you knocked that previous goal out of the park, then it’s time to step on to the next one.
But if you are STILL putting it off (because I get it!), I’ve prepared a few questions for us to consider.
QUESTION 1: What is the BELIEF that is keeping you from doing it?
Here’s why I am afraid to create posts and podcasts here at LearnDoBecome…
I believe that if I write about the things that I truly love and if I share my heart, I will be rejected.
The thought that comes into my mind is, “People probably won’t like it. They will leave us. I will have failed them.”
Ahh—so hard to even acknowledge that! But here’s why I worry.
At Power of Moms, I know what I’m doing. I’ve found my voice there. I’ve been doing it for 10 years, and I know EXACTLY who I am speaking to. You can find lots of podcasts over there! In fact, I prepared FOUR of them tonight before I got to this one…. I just don’t worry.
But here at LearnDoBecome, I DO worry. We have a larger, more diverse group here. LearnDoBecome grew very quickly. And I’ve received a few mean emails. (Like two…. out of thousands. So silly, right?) Our community is men and women. Old and young. From so many backgrounds. And I have this belief that no matter how hard I try, I won’t do it “right.” And so I keep waiting for the perfect time to actually start.
Maybe you’re going through something like that.
Maybe you’re thinking, “I’m afraid to pull the trigger. I’m afraid to step into what I know I need to do because I’m afraid I’m not going to do it right.”
QUESTION #2: What would your internal board of directors say to you?
I have this team of people inside my head. People who know me and care about me. People who always give me good advice. They’re busy, and we don’t talk very often, but I think of them all standing in front of me, and I visualize myself saying to them, “Here is why I am afraid….” And then I write down what they would say.
Who would be on your internal board of directors? A sibling? A dear friend? A favorite teacher? A parent?
I want you to think of the people who truly know your heart and love you—in spite of your imperfections. The people who value you for who you are.
What would they say if you shared your fear?
I think my board would say, “April, it’s okay for people to leave your community if they don’t like you. You aren’t meant to please the whole world. Your voice is needed by SOME people. Many people. But you aren’t serving them because you’re letting this idea of potentially mean or angry people in your head stop you from living your full potential. You need to be brave and start doing what you feel inspired and directed to do. The time has come to stand tall.”
Again, this might be a good time to pause and record what YOUR board of directors would say.
QUESTION #3: How could you move toward your goal in a way that feels easy and light?
Sometimes we complicate things. We think, “I have to do this, and this, and this to make my goal absolutely PERFECT, or it’s not worth doing.”
But what feels light and fun—that will still help you to reach your goal?
What is one thing you could do to break down a barrier to your project completion?
I noticed, for example, that I never schedule time into my week to record podcasts or write posts for LearnDoBecome. It just scares me to do that.
But I’m going to start. I’m going to create time.
I’m also going to focus on talking to ONE person. If I picture myself talking to hundreds of thousands of people, that feels scary. So I created an imaginary person in my mind who I feel represents our LearnDoBecome community. And I’m not going to worry if people email us and say mean things. Because they are clearly not the people we’re meant to serve. ?
What can YOU do? How can you create time to move forward on your scary thing?
I want you to share your thoughts and your commitment in the comments. Seriously. I believe it’s important to publicly declare our intentions as we’re moving forward. (You could totally text a friend or do this privately, but whether you choose to make this declaration publicly or privately, I challenge you to do it.)
Here are a few good quotes about change that I thought you might like:
Eric and I are both committed to helping this community learn, do, and become who we’re meant to be.
It is WAY too common to feel depressed, discouraged, and like we’re failing.
But we’re here as a community to remind each other what is possible.
We believe in you. We haven’t met most of you in person, but we hope that as we grow—and fail—and stumble—and get up and keep trying, we can give you the courage and hope to do the same. There are so many exciting opportunities, and there is power from above that will help each of us. That I know 100 percent.
So share in the comments below the change you’re going to make in your life.
See you soon!
April (and Eric)
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