Today’s podcast is a little bit different than those we’ve published in the past. I was recently interviewed by Jessica Jackson from the Thriving in Motherhood podcast, and although LearnDoBecome.com isn’t a site “just for moms,” we talked about some really important concepts that I believe can be helpful for everyone.
Are you working to build stronger relationships in your home? Do you wonder how housework fits in with that? What about routine-building? Deciding how to engage with others on social media? Making time to really take care of ourselves while also putting our family members as our top priority? (Click “play” above to listen!)
A Few Key Points from the Podcast
Sometimes we don’t pause long enough to realize there are some tricky things going on behind the scenes. (The morning I recorded this podcast, I’d been going through some of my own a-ha moments and had a pretty good “cry session” with Eric…..)
When you’re raising children, it’s easy to put your own sanity, health and safety on hold because someone else’s life literally depends on you. That’s a pressure we don’t often acknowledge, but when we learn how to care for ourselves and maintain a solid perspective on this, it makes a big difference–the earlier in life the better.
And what about clutter? We talk a LOT about clearing it from our homes, but it is just as essential that we learn to clear the clutter from our minds and our hearts, so we have the space to thrive.
Sometimes it’s okay to go a day, a week, or even a month in survival mode. You’re okay; you’ve simply put things on hold….
But too often, we lose our light or our spark or our enthusiasm for life because we get so weighed down by everyone and everything that needs us.
Jessica and I addressed some pretty heavy topics in the discussion, but we also identified a few ways we can take care of ourselves and be more deliberate about the feeling we create in our homes:
- Do housework side-by-side with our children. It may go against our natural inclination to simply “get the housework done,” but as we do, we will find beauty in our relationships and in that often-mundane work. (This works with teens, too!)
- Look for small ways to put relationships first. Do you miss having people in your life? As we think creatively, we can identify ways to have more conversations and visits with family and friends. At the end of the day, building relationships gives us more sense of value than having our hair look just right, fitting into a certain size of clothes, or reaching lots of people on social media.
- Take time for self-care. Scream Free Parenting by Hal Edward Runkel changed the way I looked at loving myself and loving my children. Taking care of ourselves gives us the stamina to get through the ups and downs of each day, without having a total breakdown. Some ways I care for myself include prioritizing my bedtime, exercising, taking a shower, drinking water, and eating well. (You can find my full list of ways I care for myself here.) And you can ask my husband and children to tell you how I often forget to do these things. 🙂
- Value the moments we have with those we love, even if they don’t seem “worthy” for social media. One evening, my 17-year-old daughter came into my room and snuggled with me and our dog, Sunny. I’d been thinking about a few things that hadn’t gone well that day and felt a little down. As we snuggled, she said, “Mom, I don’t think life gets better than this.” That was a wake-up call…. It is so easy to forget that the PEOPLE in our lives matter most. But really, we all inherently know that.
We hope this podcast will be helpful for you today!
Some books we talked about:
- Thursdays with Zoe (I wrote this for my mom…she knew how to focus on the feeling in the home, and I share some fun stories!)
- *Scream Free Parenting by Hal Edward Runkel (so good!!)
- Podcast Episode 32–Getting a Whole Day to Yourself! If you ever feel like you spend most of your time running around and putting out fires, it probably sounds HEAVENLY to have one day a week (or even part of a day) to regroup, refocus, and recommit to architecting a life of excellence.
- Have you had a chance to take our free class to help you get out of clutter and organize your mind?
- If you’re a mother, come get a free audio and assessment at my other website, Power of Moms!
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