Welcome to Lesson 7 of our Step-By-Step Home Organizing Party! I hope you’ve had a blast so far, and I promise this lesson is going to be a treat as you hear from author Greg Mckeown and participate in the 7-Day Essentialism Challenge!
The key is in the word…It’s looking for not just the stuff and not just the good things, but the absolutely essential things. To create enough space to figure out what those are; to have the courage to eliminate the things that are not essential. And then to build a system to make execution as easy as possible…so that you can operate at your highest point of contribution instead of just feeling stretched too thin and going in a million different directions.Greg McKeown
Essentialism is an ongoing pursuit–not a state at which to arrive. Sometimes, you don’t even realize that you’ve mastered it until you look back in retrospect at the good things happening in your life. As you let go of other’s opinions and agendas for you–and let go of your past aspirations that are no longer relevant–you will feel the lightness of walking in the path of your highest contribution.
Q: How do you deal with the fear of loss?
The gentlest way to become an essentialist is to invest more and more of your time and energy in the things, people, causes and relationships that are highly important. The rest will fall out of your life naturally.
Our fear is greatest in the moment of releasing something. It feels like if we say “no” or let go of something, a little piece of us will die. But in reality, it often turns out to be the exact opposite. We gain freedom. We can breathe better. We have the mental space to be creative.
The whole problem with non-essentialism is it’s based in a lie: that you can do everything for everyone all the time. Do everything everyone else is doing. I mean, this is just a form of madness…Essentialism is actually just a more truthful way of looking at things.Greg McKeown
Sometimes people have a hundred times more capability and talent than they do time. If that’s the case, you’ll find you have to be very selective. Ask yourself, “What is absolutely my essential, unique mission in life?” Then, as you make decisions, pay close attention to how you feel as you move in that direction to see if it’s right or not.
3 Steps to Becoming an Essentialist:
- Explore what’s essential.
- Eliminate what’s not.
- Create a system to make it easy.
What one thing–if it really happened over the next five years–would be a real game changer in your life? What is that one thing that would allow you to contribute at an entirely new level? When you get clear on that, you’ll find that 80% of the stuff you were doing before is no longer relevant. Your criteria for making decisions is no longer this generalized idea; it’s very specific.
At the top of my daily reminders, I’ve written, “I am rested and calm, and I am connected to my best friend, Eric.” That’s at the top of my list, because I’ve noticed when I take time to sleep and I’m calm and he’s my priority, everything else goes so much better.April Perry
Q: What is your advice to someone who has some energy and lots they want to do, but just feels like they can’t get started?
You may find that you’re already burned out. If that’s the case, the first step is to protect your ability to prioritize. What can you do to take care of yourself so that you can protect your ability to discern priorities? You want to be able to make better decisions tomorrow, the next day, and over the long run. Therefore, protecting yourself and your ability to make such decisions–as the asset of driving future progress–is the highest priority.
To build on that, this is fundamental to our work as parents, teaching our children to protect this navigational spiritual asset. Once our children can discern and follow their conscience, the effective work of parenting is done. Each child is unique. Our intent as parents is not to get our children to do what we want, it’s to help them discover what they are supposed to do with their life–and then have the ability to decide which opportunities will lead them there.
Essentialism is about light. To live essentialism is to follow whatever light you have, even if it’s just the tiniest bit of light. It can be quite a lonely path, because you’re trying to take a path that is designed just for you. Your path is unique to you–and amazing. As you take steps towards something you feel clear is right for you, that light will get brighter and brighter.
And while your unique path might be a little bit lonely, we know that as you surround yourself with other people who are following their own path, it brings strength. That is why we are so grateful for each of you–our LearnDoBecome community. It is truly beautiful to watch you take steps forward on your path. As you do, you lift those around you! Thank you so much for being here!
Ready to get started? Come sign up at LearnDoBecome.com/party to access the free 7-Day Essentialism Challenge! (We have both printable and digital options for you!)
Here are some of the books that have helped Eric and I apply the principles of Essentialism to our lives!
- Essentialism by Greg McKeown
- Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud What is either already dead OR taking energy that needs to be put somewhere else?
- The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo What sparks joy?
- Good to Great by Jim Collins What is your hedgehog?
Get to know Greg McKeown:
His website | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter
Here’s another podcast we recorded with Greg!
How to Prioritize a Life that Matters – With Greg McKeown and April and Eric Perry
Boundaries.me course by Dr. Henry Cloud
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Best podcast yet. This one really hit home for me.
I am getting so much good information, and have put a lot to use, but I have so far to go. Thank you
April Perry says
Soooo glad this was helpful!! You’re moving in the right direction. That’s the most important thing. Go Katie!
Audrey Allen says
That was perfect. Two of my siblings and I are currently doing a “book club” through Zoom meetings using Essentialism as our book. It has been fantastic for us and how synchronistic to have this show up in my inbox! Thank you for hosting!
Taryn Wood says
That sounds like so much fun, Audrey! Thanks for your comment and thanks for being with us! We hope you enjoy the podcast. 🙂
Listening to this was so enjoyable and inspiring. Thanks for what you do.
Michelle J Dixon says
A million thank you, would not be enough. This conversation got me out of bed! Energized!
April Perry says
Wonderful!! So happy for you!
I needed this right now! I’m older & retired but have struggled with best use of my time. I want to finish well & leave a legacy to my family & younger people in my life it find many things cluttering my life.
Kathleen, I would like more conversations with someone like you 😊. I also am more or less (not yet retired) and am wondering what may be next …. Marilyn
I read about 1/3 -1/2 of his book before the kids got put on online schooling due to the virus going on and lock downs starting…and have been really wanting to get back to it…now I’m even more eager to start from the beginning and read it all. Thanks for sharing your wisdome April and your experiences, and Greg’s wisdom with all of us! And thankful to Greg for his book and his knowledge of sharing
I have listened to this podcast twice in the last couple weeks…so good! Plan to listen to it again tonight.
Do you have the podcast written up in full to print off…so many important things both of you say and would love to have it in hand and highlighted like a morning daily read of quotes.
Hi! Loved this podcast! Thank you so much! I got very curious about setting boundaries and I am searching more about Dr. Henry Cloud but I would absolutely love hear a podcast about that and maybe an interview with Dr. Cloud! That would be amazing! Thank you so much for all your work and suggestions! They have been such a lift ❤️
Taryn Wood says
Margarida, thank you for your kind words! I’ll pass your request along to our content creation team. 🙂 In the meantime, if you search “Henry Cloud” on our website, you’ll find a few other podcast episodes where April mentions what she’s learned from Dr. Cloud’s books. Thanks for being with us! We’re so glad you’re here!
This was such an inspiring podcast.
I just finished reading Procrastination Elimination: Program your mind to get things done by Keith MacLean where he talks about visualizing your perfect life and this podcast really helped me narrow down my focus on what I want in my future, perfect life.
Now I can build my goals, projects and tasks to get there in a much more manageable way.
Taryn Wood says
Julie, thank you for your comment and for the book recommendation! I’m adding it to my list now. 🙂 We’re happy to hear that you enjoyed this podcast. You might also enjoy our other interview with Greg McKeown, https://learndobecome.com/episode12/. In this episode, he teaches us how to prioritize a life that matters. Thanks for being with us!