During a recent podcast on LearnDoBecome Radio, I mentioned that there are two questions I have taped to my bedroom door so that I can read them every day. I received some comments requesting I go a bit deeper into the story behind the questions, so this video will do just that!
Having just two questions has brought a huge sense of relief. I used to have this whole list of goals I was working on, and there were so many things I needed to do daily and weekly that I started feeling overwhelmed whenever I looked at it.
Now I just look at my two questions, and I don’t feel that prior sense of pressure. I hope these questions will help you too!
Question #1: Am I healthy, happy, and aligned with God?
(*Note: you can adjust this with however you describe your higher power–this is just my personal question. 🙂 )
I’ve had some health issues these past several months, so I’ve really had to invest in things like drinking enough water, making sure I’m exercising, eating nutritious foods, and getting enough sleep. Our health is so important, and I needed to make sure mine didn’t get overlooked.
So, for question #1, I think about the people in my life, the things I’m doing, and the projects I’m working on. I ask myself, “Am I feeling generally happy?” Checking in to see if I am feeling mentally healthy and emotionally balanced helps to make sure that my happiness remains a priority.
The other half of the question is about whether I’m aligned with God (my higher power). This is very important to me because I want to know that the life I’m living is the life I’m meant to live. By reflecting on my alignment with God, I’m able to continue developing that relationship so I can continue to access the lift and support that comes from it.
Question #2: Have I lived my purpose deliberately, doing one day’s share?
I don’t think any of us want to just live a life where we’re running around in circles, doing what everyone else wants us to do and never feeling like we’re actually making progress on our life’s purpose. Checking in on this area helps ensure that we ARE, in fact, living our purpose.
I love using the word deliberately here because it means I’m actively thinking about and planning in advance for striving towards my purpose. That way, when various opportunities and circumstances come up, I’m making decisions that align with my purpose and values.
The phrase “one day’s share” at the end of the question helps me put my day into perspective. I used to pile up my lists with SO many things to do; and at the end of the day, I would feel down on myself when I saw I had barely made a dent in that long list.
Now, when I ask myself if I did one day’s share, I can stop myself from piling on more tasks. I can know that I’ve done my day’s share of work, and I can relax and feel confident with my accomplishments.
Here’s a quick example of how my assessment works….
Last week, when I read the question, “Do I feel healthy, happy, relaxed, and aligned with God?”, my answer was, “Not really.” I hadn’t slept well the night before, I was worried about something one of our children was going through, I was putting way too much pressure on myself to get a bunch of tasks done, and I felt like I was falling behind.
Once I reflected on these reasons behind my answer, I then took steps to correct the issues that were coming up: I decided to reduce my commitments and workload a bit, get to bed early that night, give myself some grace regarding my feelings of responsibility and obligation to “fix” everything, and I acknowledged that a lot of things were going right. I just needed to calm down a bit.
Then, when I asked myself the second question, “Have I fulfilled my purpose deliberately—doing one day’s share?”, I could honestly answer, “Yes.” I mentally reviewed the previous 48 hours and recognized that there were a lot of unplanned tasks, opportunities, relationship-building moments, and energy-requiring experiences. With all that was going on, it was no wonder that I felt a little on the “drained” side.
So instead of continuing to feel frustrated over the gap between where I wanted to be and where I was, I took a deep breath and got started on those adjustments I mentioned above.
This little evaluation took about 5 minutes. It wasn’t complicated, but it transformed the way I perceived my success—and the way I approached the remainder of the day. That is why I ask myself these questions. I encourage you to incorporate this practice into your day-to-day life if you want this same sense of lift and empowerment!
LearnDoBecome Invitation: Take a moment and reflect on what parts of your life are most important to you. What areas would you like to reflect on daily, and what words could you use to connect with those areas? Jot down whatever resonates with you, and take a moment to see where you are at with them today. (And if you want to make sure you’re seeing them every day, you could post them on the back of your door, too!)
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