Do you ever feel like you are being held back from reaching your potential–and that life is always getting in the way? But then you realize the problem is really inside YOU?
It’s so hard to acknowledge that sometimes.
Eric and I recently attended the Best Year Ever Live conference, which was such a GREAT experience. Michael Hyatt guided us through writing out our dreams in 10 different life domains. Then we identified the “limiting beliefs” holding us back.
Wow. It was a huge wake-up call that helped me to see that I was subconsciously setting myself up for disappointment time and time again. It is incredibly hard for me to post things like this, but I’m pretty sure I’m not alone. Working through this exercise has had a truly positive impact on me, and I hope it can help you, too!
Here are photos of the actual worksheets, but in case they are hard to read, they are also typed out below.
First, we described what we really want for 2018:
Your Breakthrough Year - List Your Dreams
Feel a consistent, lifting spirit each day. Hear Him. Unwavering faith, knowing I can ask for help whenever I need it.
Consistently challenge my brain – new concepts, ideas, quotes, skills, abilities. Feel “alive” through books, conferences, classes, and online learning. Record what I learn.
Dramatically reduce anxiety and fear. Be confident in who I am and what I am choosing to do with my life. Do not let “people pleasing” or unnecessary guilt prevent me from thriving.
Get more solid sleep at night so I can invest energy hiking, skating, or doing other exercise I love during the day. Always have plenty of green vegetables on hand.
Find that balance between being engaged in one another’s goals and projects and giving each other space to think and focus on individual needs. Create time for more fun.
Be more deliberate each month/week about the kinds of activities and the amount of support I give to each child. Don’t parent “4 kids” – be a deliberate mother to Alia, Grace, Ethan, and Spencer.
Plan date nights and family activities with friends we can trust who lift us and can speak candidly about navigating life well. Inspire and support one another.
Really come alive this year. A beautiful foundation is in place, and it is time to think bigger, but shift into stronger leadership (instead of trying to do too much myself).
“Butterfly” at Power of Moms.
Learn to invest wisely.
Then we used two worksheets to identify our limiting beliefs and REPLACE them with liberating truths:
My Limiting Beliefs and Liberating Truths
Limiting Belief: God has other children who need Him more. He would appreciate it if I could fend for myself.
Liberating Truth: God wants me to come to Him. “Fending for myself” is the adversary’s instructions. God has plans for me, and He will help me. My job is not to put limits on God.
Limiting Belief: There are some subjects I’m just “not good at” — it’s too late to get started, and I am embarrassingly far behind.
Liberating Truth: I can study my areas of interest — and learning some new material is always an opportunity. There is no shame in not knowing everything. Only God knows all.
Limiting Belief: I have a moral obligation to make sure everyone in the world is happy with me.
Liberating Truth: I have a moral obligation to love others as God would, but if I am doing my best, and that upsets someone, it is not my fault. I can apologize for wrongs and make needed corrections, but I don’t have to please everyone.
Limiting Belief: I have too many people who need me — there is no way I can get enough sleep AND have time for exercise and healthy eating. It’s selfish.
Liberating Truth: Putting the “big rocks” of personal care is essential. Other details that consume my time are not all essential.
Limiting Belief: I shouldn’t ever need individual time. My need for quiet is a weakness. And if I plan “fun,” we won’t get our work done.
Liberating Truth: My strengths are different than Eric’s. Quiet and “fun” replenishes me. An empty well helps no one.
Limiting Belief: I am lacking in knowledge and expertise when it comes to really tailoring motherhood to the needs of each child. Their weaknesses are my fault.
Liberating Truth: I love my children and have what it takes to mother them. Their weaknesses are because they are mortal and growing. I can give them space for that. I need space for that too…
Limiting Belief: Time with friends takes away time from my family. I shouldn’t need or want it. And it is too risky to form deep, honest friendships. I might get hurt — or not have enough to give.
Liberating Truth: Friends are a gift. I can build relationships in a variety of ways, but it is worth it to build strong friendships and will bring so much joy to life. “Friends are the family we choose for ourselves.”
Limiting Belief: Thinking bigger in my business is just going to bring more problems.
Liberating Truth: Thinking bigger in my business will allow me to be a support to more people. This is not about me. I can solve problems.
Limiting Belief: People will probably think I am ridiculous if I “butterfly” to my heart’s content.
Liberating Truth: My voice may not resonate/be helpful to everyone, but I am not here to lift everyone. I am here to live my specific mission.
Limiting Belief: Learning to invest might cause us to lose money because I will probably be bad at it.
Liberating Truth: There are trusted advisors out there who can help with investing. I don’t have to become an expert in order to be conversant. I am excited!
Seeing on paper the thoughts that were holding me back was incredibly eye-opening. It gave me some concrete ideas for mindset shifts I need to work on this year, and I hope that as you start walking through what you really want for your year, this exercise can give you a boost.
If you DO decide to give it a try, please report back in the comments section! We’d love to hear from you.
We’re excited to be able to serve you at LearnDoBecome this year!
If you haven’t yet heard our exciting announcement, we’ve opened our 2018 Life Architecture Beta Group through January 31st to anyone who REALLY wanted to be a part of it but didn’t get a chance to join Michael Hyatt’s Best Year Ever program (for which Life Architecture was a special bonus). Click the link above or the “Life Architecture” image to learn more!